2018: the year you finally get in a relationship

Man, 2017 has been a year of learning for me. More than anything, I’ve learned a heck of a lot about myself. I’ve grown so much more as a person this year and for that I’m forever grateful. I’ve grown spiritually. While I’ve always been a Christian and a believer, 2017 was the first time in my life that I’ve really felt like I made my faith my own. It was the first time I dove headfirst into my relationship with my savior Jesus Christ and at times had to say, “God, take my life, take this world, take whatever you need, and work a miracle in my life and let me be a vessel for your creation. Let me love others like you do Lord.” I am so grateful for this year. It has undoubtedly been tough. It’s been a year of transition, trials, and tribulations, but I’m so thankful for the seeds in my relationship with Christ that have been sowed throughout this year.

If you are reading this, my prayer for your 2018 is that this may finally be the year you take the first steps in your relationship with your savior and your salvation.

I see so many people on social media who absolutely crave the idea of being in a relationship with a significant other. It’s the time of year when you see people getting engaged/married left and right and man it drains you sometimes to be honest. But I see so many tweets and posts saying how if someone could just find a relationship in 2018 they’d finally be content. How if they were in a relationship they would be happy and all cares of the world would be gone. Well, the fact of the matter is that there is a perfect savior who gave His life on the cross to have a relationship with you and the world has decided to put that relationship on hold, in the back seat so-to-speak, to the idea of a worldly relationship.

Well, people, let me tell you: if my relationship with a girl isn’t centered around Christ than I would rather be single every single day for the rest of my life.

God wants you to find Him long before finding a significant other. Because honestly, that makes finding that boyfriend/girlfriend so much sweeter if it’s a relationship centered and pointed toward the cross.

To any single people reading this, or truth be told, anyone reading this, I pray your 2018 is the year you dive head first into your relationship with Jesus Christ, because let me tell ya, He will absolutely change your life.



Matthew 11:28

28 Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

I was so excited to come to college. I was beyond pumped for move in day. It finally came. My parents and I drove to College Station, unpacked everything we had brought, and then we grabbed lunch and I said goodbye to them. Yet while I had unpacked everything we had brought, I still carried baggage.

I am a sinner. I said it. And I’m not afraid to say it. I am human, I make plenty of mistakes, but I am also very loved by an unfailing Savior who redeems each and every one of those mistakes.

So many people nowadays, myself included, have carried burdens that have held them back from being the person they want to be.

We live in a generation where there are young men and women who carry this baggage, this weight on their shoulders that they can never seem to unload.

Boys who have struggled with baggage their entire life. Pride, lust, resentment, jealousy are all things many guys I know have struggled with throughout their life. Guys who have been weighed down by this broken world we live in. Who have never been enough for anyone around them. There are boys in this world, not men, who are actively looking to carry the weight of another person’s baggage, a significant other, when they haven’t even started to work on themselves. How selfish is that? A generation of guys who have no earthly idea what it means to be a gentlemen, a man, a boyfriend who loves others like Christ so loved the church.

We live in a generation of women who struggle internally with baggage just as much, if not more, than guys. Past boyfriends, family problems, jealousy, idealism, and hatefulness are common themes of baggage among women in 2017. Ladies, you are worth so much more than your past experiences say you are. You are worth more than the guy that broke your heart. You are worth more than what you did in high school or college. Some of the most beautiful people I’ve ever had the chance to become close with are the same exact people who were some of the most sinful when I first met them.

Gentlemen, it’s time to grow up. I say this out of love and as someone who has not grown up fast enough in my own past. It’s time to become men. We owe it to the ladies of this world. Because guess what? Those girls that you are hooking up with on Thursday, Friday, and Saturday nights? Those are God’s children. Those are your sisters in Christ and deserve to be treated as such. One day, you very well could have a daughter of your own and Lord knows that you will never want her to be treated the way the men of this world treat women nowadays. It’s time to let go of your past because at the end of the day, it’s only hurting your future. Today is the day. Today is the day you let go of what’s been holding you back for so many years. You are a redeemed man through the eyes of Christ and there is no need to carry yourself in any other way than that, even if the world tells you otherwise.

Girls, it’s time to quite simply get over it. I will be the first one to tell you that the fact of the matter is a lot of guys suck. But I’m also here to tell you that a lot of guys don’t. You have no idea how much it breaks my heart each time I hear that someone’s been cheated on, lied to, or had their heart broken by someone who never deserved that heart in the first place. I stay up thinking about it, thinking about all the horror stories of how a girl has been treated. But it’s time to move on. Holding a grudge on that ex-boyfriend, being resentful towards the father who was never there for you or abused you, living in the sin and shame of all the things that used to define you, it’s only hurting yourself. You are a beautiful creation created in Christ’s image and you are fully loved and you need to know that.

In Matthew 11:28 the Bible says, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

This verse clearly outlines Jesus’ invitation for those who believe in Him to come to Him for rest. Our God works in incredible ways. I myself find it so easy to get caught up in the trials and tribulations that each day brings and often need to be reminded of this truth. I am an incredibly broken, sinful, person, just like every single other person on this earth. I’ve been sinful since birth. The incredible truth is that we have a Savior who redeems those who need it most. A God who heals the broken-hearted in ways they could never imagine.

So instead of carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders and fighting a battle that’s already been won for me, instead of holding on to a broken past, instead of living with shame and regret, I choose today to take joy in a God of miracles who redeems, because I am absolutely one of those miracles.

the person you would never see coming

You see them every single day. Oh man, do you see them. The person makes sure of it.

It’s probably the same person you might even groan about as you see them off in the distance. The person you know will see you and make a point to say hi to you and ask you how your day is going when you all you want is to keep walking to your political science class.

The person who seems to know almost everyone. You can’t even walk two minutes around campus with them before they see someone they know and stop and make it a point to have a conversation with them.

The person who feels more isolated than you will ever know.

It’s absolutely crazy how the dynamic changes, just like that.

You would never know it, but sometimes the person you always see loving on others is the exact guy/girl who needs someone to love on them the most.

You’ll hardly ever see them upset. They’re the person who gets way too excited about the smallest things because they know it’ll make someone else’s day. They love people. They aren’t “people-pleasers,” because honestly they aren’t trying to please anyone. They’re just loving on others like they always have and somehow they end up spreading joy through their happiness. It’s that one guy you never hang out with but whenever you do, you find yourself talking to a friend you feel like you’ve known for years. The girl who’s attitude and outlook on life is infectious. You can’t explain it.

The person who plans the surprise birthday party for their best friend and makes sure every single person who loves and cares about the birthday boy/girl is there.

The same person who’s never had that surprise party.

The person who drives to his friends’ house countless nights there and back just so he can hang with them for a couple hours but when he asks one of his best friend’s to drop him back off at his place one night, the person doesn’t have the first idea where he lives, because he’s never visited.

The friend that would drop everything for the people they love.

The person who will never tell you that you’ve done them wrong because they would absolutely never want to sacrifice the friendship y’all have just to tell you the truth that you’ve hurt them deeply.

I’ve been this person, man, have I been this person. And it’s hard to admit. I’ve been this person for most of my life. And I know for a fact I’m not the only one out there. I’ve felt like every person I’ve ever met has never seemed to care as much as I do. You get over it, most of the time. You tell yourself that maybe God just put it in your heart that you are called to be that person for others. The one who loves them a little extra on their bad days. The one who asks their friends the deeper questions to truly find out what’s bothering them. The one who cares about you more than you will ever know.

I write this not coming from a self-righteous perspective. I do not want any pity or condolences. I don’t need them. But I know for a fact that almost everybody out there has one person in there life that relates to this story a little bit too much and much more than they’d like to admit.

So the point of me writing all this is to think about it. Think about who this person is in your life. And tell them you love them. Because Lord knows they need it, even if they’d never tell you that.

singleness for the sake of the kingdom

1 Corinthians 7:32-34

“An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—and his interests are divided.”

Oftentimes it’s overlooked. Oftentimes it’s the very thing people complain about most. 

“I can never find a boyfriend who will cherish me.”

“I just am tired of being single and I can’t wait for the day when I finally find the girl that was meant for me.”

Being single is a gift from God.

It’s so easy to find yourself looking towards the future and towards the day when you finally find someone who has the heart for God that you’ve always hoped your future spouse would have. The person you’ve prayed for relentlessly. The one who will cherish you for everything you are and nothing less.

But until then, what are you waiting for?

God has blessed you with a time in your life where you can run after Him and chase His kingdom with a pursuit undivided. You have absolutely no one to look after except for yourself and the fact of the of the matter is, we’re wasting this gift.

This is the one time in your life you get to build His kingdom in ways unimaginable. You get to pursue His love unlike you ever have before. You can go on mission trips, you can serve in plenty of roles in the church, you can bring others to Christ during this time. You can change lives. You will never have any more free time than you have right now in your life. In 1 Corinthians 7, verses 32-34 it says, “An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—and his interests are divided.” 

Once we are married, we are called to love our wives such as Christ loved the church. We are called to be devoted to them in an unfailing love bonded by the covenant of marriage. But, until then, what are you waiting for? 

Go out and change people’s lives for the sake of the kingdom of Christ. Love others in ways you never have before. Go on that mission trip you always have wanted to go on. Show God’s word to your friends and family who need it most.

God has blessed you with a season of singleness and who knows how long this season will last. But while it does last, use it. Run with it. Utilize this season for the sake of God’s kingdom.

how idealism hurts relationships

James 4:2-3

2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.

Ever since school began I’ve tried to listen more. While I’m still not the best at it, I’ve come across a few observations since the year began. One of these tidbits I’ve picked up on is that there are a ton of people who just aren’t very content with where they’re at in their life. Sure, there’s a ton of people who are thrilled with where they’re at, but I’ve noticed a pattern of friends and even strangers looking for something more; more than what they have now. In a day of social media, everyone puts their thoughts on the internet for the world to see. And recently a lot of what I’ve been seeing is people who put more stock in idealizing perfect relationships than actually working on the relationships they already have.

“If one day I can find a man who loves me and talks about me like *insert celebrity here* loves his wife, I’d finally be happy.” Now don’t get me wrong ladies, Thomas Rhett and his wife are the cutest thing since puppies, but the fact of the matter is that idealizing a relationship that you’ll never be a part of only can hurt the one you will be a part of. The same absolutely goes for guys. We do it just as much, if not more.

“If I could just find a girl like that one day I would be a happy man.”

“If I just could find friends that cared about me that much, maybe I could finally be happy.”

“If I just had a family that loved me like their’s does, man, I would finally be happy.

All of these sentences have one thing in common, they’re all ifs.

James 4:2-3 says, “You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.”

We want what we don’t have, so what do we do? We ruin. We kill what we do have. We covet, we cling to the very things we wish we could have. We fight because we don’t get what we want, when we want it, right now. We want that perfect relationship, that perfect friendship, that perfect family why? For selfish reasons. With the wrong motives. At the end of the day, we do it for our own pleasures, for our own happiness. And the fact of the matter is that this idealism, this craving for something that has not been, is not, and will never be ours, is hurting our relationships. Hurting our relationships not only with each other, but with God Himself.

That verse hits incredibly close to home, mainly because I’m 1000% just as guilty of it as every other person. So the question I want to pose to anyone reading this is what do we do? As members of God’s church, children of God himself, what do we do?

We have to change. We as a generation have to make the conscious decision to be a people who puts their stock in God and nothing less. Because at the end of the day, anything less than God won’t make us happy, even if we think it would bring us more joy than anything else on this planet.

As a people we need to fix our eyes so high above on God and on Jesus Christ that it becomes pretty dang hard to remember what you were worried about before. I want us to take a moment to stop and just be thankful for the relationships, friendships, and family we do have in our lives. If you woke up today to see another day and you have any of those three aspects of your life right now (relationship, friendship, family), consider yourself incredibly blessed. There are people who have absolutely none of them. Sow those relationships and friendships that you do have. I promise you there is at least one of your friends who probably had a bad day and you have an opportunity to make it better by being there for them, to be their light. Shoot them a text, a phone call; grab lunch with them, show them God is good.

Idealism and idealistic mindsets hurt future and current relationships.


we are called to “go”

Matthew 28:18-20

18 Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”
Tired. Brokenhearted. Broken. Weary. Bored. Worn out. Uninspired. All these things hold us back from doing what we are called to do. As a child of God, a creation of the sovereign King of the universe, we are called to “go.”
Until recently I, at one point or another have been every single one of those words listed above. There have been countless days and nights where I have made the conscious decision to not “go.” To not be positive. To not create disciples of God. To not love like Jesus has, does, and will. Plenty of times, almost daily actually, I have fallen short of the glory of God. And that’s ok. But I realized something had to change.
In Matthew 28, known as the Great Commission, God is literally telling the world that the world is His. All authority, all power, everything in this world has been given to Him. He calls us in verse 19 to GO. He calls us to make disciples, to teach the weak and the weary of His glory.
Yet we don’t.
We find ourselves in ruts, valleys, and more often than not, trapped in our own thoughts. We convince ourselves somehow that we’re not enough even though He tells us so many times we are. We tell ourselves that because of insane a student organization rejects us, because the attractive boy or girl in your chemistry class doesn’t find you attractive, because your friends abandoned you, because we’re afraid that He might be right. Afraid of the fact that for the first time in our lives, we are enough.
We all have different spiritual gifts. We all have different platforms. We all have different voices, talents, and abilities. But we are called to use them for our God’s glory. We are called to SHARE the great news. We are called to go.
I have found my spiritual gift to be exhortation. “The Spirit of God gives this gift to people in the church to strengthen and encourage those who are wavering in their faith.  Those with the gift of exhortation can uplift and motivate others as well as challenge and rebuke them in order to foster spiritual growth and action.” I have learned that while I don’t always have the best ability to give advice or to preach, I have a talent for leading people to those who can give the best advice, who can preach. Ever since I learned this was my spiritual gift, I have ran with it and it has been so cool to see Christ move in these people y’all.
Whatever ministry you have, use it. Whatever gifts you were blessed with to spread God’s glory, use them. Use your platform, show God’s love to those who need to see it the most. Be that light, be the person who starts the 180 degree change in someone’s life, because I promise you it is so cool to see God work through the people you love and care about.

the beauty in being unapologetically yourself

1 Peter 4:10

10 Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.

Something I have grown to love to see in others is the ability to be unapologetically themselves. I have thought about this a ton over the last week and a half and it is something that over time I have come to admire immensely.

I used to be very stuck in my ways, and, self admittedly, I still am in a lot of aspects of my life. However, one thing I overlooked when I was younger was the beauty in being yourself. Now, there are a lot of people who are their own person and show it every day, but what there is a dearth, a scarcity of, is people who are proud to be themselves. The pride of walking into a day and knowing that it’s going to be a great day because, if nothing else good happens to you, you love the person you are and the person you’ve become and will become.

There are tons of people I disagree with. Religion, politics, music, social views, whatever it may be, I would be hard pressed to find someone with identical worldly views as myself. No matter what you think or the opinions you hold, I will respect someone who is passionate about what they believe and passionate about who they are. We live in a generation of people who are so afraid of being who they want to be that they try to be someone else. They wish they were someone else.

For a point of reference, there is a girl in my Fish Camp who is so unapologetically herself in every aspect of her life. It’s beautiful to see. This girl absolutely loves to live life and you can tell each and every day that she loves who she is. She loves to make crazy faces in photos, not caring how the heck they turn out. She loves to make everyone around her happy by doing the one thing she knows how to do best: being herself. And I absolutely love that quality in a person and this person is someone I consider a great friend. Sometimes I even envy that quality because I think being yourself and being proud of it is one of the coolest things you can do.

In conclusion, being yourself and loving it is heckin’ cool, man. There’s no other way for me to put it. People love being around people who they feel like are being genuine and feel like they can be genuine with. I know I do. I love the one on one conversations with these kind of people, I crave that. Learning what makes someone like that tick is fascinating to me and I know it is to plenty of others too. I love the idea of finding perfection in imperfections. The idea that those imperfections are what make us so great is incredibly beautiful to me.

In 1 Peter 4:10 the bible says the words, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others” and that is something I have tried to take in stride. We were all given incredible gifts from God, each talent different, unique, and important. We are called to use these abilities to serve the world around us. If you’re funny, go make somebody laugh and brighten their day. If you’re patient, go listen to the person, the friend who just needs somebody to talk to. If you’re caring, show it. Show those around you how much you care and be the positive influence in their life that they might not have had otherwise.

Use your gift and love your gift. First love all that you are and all that you have to offer so that you can then love the world. This is the beauty in being unapologetically yourself.

loving those who are the hardest to love

Luke 6:32

32 “If you love those who love you, but what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them.”

As I was going through my devotional this morning I came across the verse Luke 6:32. It talks about how easy it is to love those who love us because anyone can do that, it’s easy, it’s comfortable. But the part of the verse that stood out to me is where the bible says, “but what credit is that to you?”

It hit home because while I’ve improved upon it, I know I haven’t done enough of it. It is so easy to love the people who love you. The people who want to be around you. The people who look up to you and respect you. Your friends.

But what about the people who don’t love you? What about the people who despise you? The ones who hope you fail, who’s only desire is to see you fall. The ones who have forsaken you even though you thought they never could. It seems almost impossible. To love the very people who irritate you, stab you in the back, and gossip about you.

In my devotional today, the author, Rick Warren, says, “If you only love on and off like a light switch, you do not love others like God wants you to love.”

After reading this, I honestly had to sit down for a bit and just think about what he was saying.

Once you come to realize the amount of love God has for us, a love so immeasurable, so boundless, and so unfailing, your focus begins to change. How can I, a child of God, come to despise another human being who has come into creation through the same means as me? How can you, even for that split second, come to think you’re better than that person who is different than you or doesn’t have the same outlook as you?

I’m a firm believer that in order to pour God’s love into others, you must first realize His love for you. Once you understand that, everything truly becomes so much easier. I will be the first to admit for the longest time I struggled and oftentimes continue to battle with the concept of loving those who hate me. It’s really hard to do. But God calls us to do this every day. He calls us to love like he loved, loves, and will continue to love.

The devotional asked three questions at the end:

  1. What does it mean to receive God’s love?
  2. How can you better understand how much God loves you?
  3. How should a Christian’s love look different to the world?

I encourage anyone reading this to ask those three questions to themselves and see where that leads them.

I said it earlier and I’ll say it again, it’s hard. It might be one of, if not the hardest, tasks God calls us to do. But it’s important. It’s easy to love those who love you, cherish you, and value you, but I challenge everyone to do the hard part and show God’s love to those who may not have that same love in their heart. Be their light. Be a friendly face.

It can make an incredible difference.

learning to love your imperfect life


Romans 5:8

8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

I’m a very imperfect man loved and saved by a perfect Savior. I said it. I am imperfect. Seems obvious I know, but for the longest time I struggled admitting it. We live in a day and age where we see everyone’s best moments. What I mean is that on social media we are essentially looking at a bunch of human highlights reels. It’s something I have just scratched the surface of realizing. Every single instagram, tweet, snapchat, facebook post, it all is a compilation of our best moments. These social media pictures that get sent out are the prettiest and best looking pictures in the camera roll. The best moments of a relationship. The moments in our life that we feel best encapsulate our life as being a good one. No one posts the pictures where they look like they just rolled out of bed. The arguments, the fights in their relationship. They want everyone to think their life is perfect.

I will be the first to tell you that my life is not perfect.

I actually have come to grow a distaste for trying to convince everyone around me that my life is always so great. It’s been a long road. In fact, there are few people I’ve gotten to know well that don’t have a story of struggle and overcoming one thing or another. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, life is hard. There were points in high school where I fell to my knees and just prayed. I prayed for hours at a time sometimes. I wondered “why me?” more than I’d like to admit.

I was saved by my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ my senior year of high school. I had always grown up in faith and have had incredibly supportive parents who took me to church and showed me an amazing love. But I had never “bought in,” so to speak. It wasn’t until those nights of praying for hours upon hours that I found my faith. I had my faith that I always turned to but I still just didn’t completely love myself. I honestly didn’t completely love myself until very recently, to be completely honest. I compared myself to those around me still, wondering sometimes why they had what I didn’t. But, one day recently I saw the impact I made on others. I love bringing joy to others, making them smile, making them feel good. I’ve found my passion in that and if I can spread the great news by doing it, all the better. I saw that I found my happiness in making others happy, making others love their own life and see the goodness within. I see so many guys and girls walking around with a lack of passion for life and it breaks my heart. So many beautiful people, inside and out, that wish they had the “perfect life” that they see from everyone around them. No one has a perfect life. No one. But the great news is that everyone has a perfect Savior that loves them more than they could fathom. Everyone sins, in fact we’ve all been sinners since before we were even born. But the incredible news, the thing that still amazes me all the time, is that no matter how much I’ve messed up, no matter how many mistakes I’ve made, God called His only son to die on the cross for all of it. That is a miracle. That is beautiful.

an open letter to the Christian girl in college who says she “hates guys” from a Christian guy in college

This is my message to the Christian girl who says she “hates guys” from a Christian man in college:

Over my freshman year in college, I heard so many of my friends who are girls claim that they “hate guys,” when talking about their boy troubles. “They just come off as so nice and you can never really tell what they want or what their motives are and they always just end up screwing me over. I hate boys.” “I’m just ready to find a husband at this point. I’m tired of this crap. Too bad there aren’t any guys in college who want the same thing as me at this point even.”

This is the point where I couldn’t stay quiet anymore.

In my short time in college, I’ve met more Christian men who want to pursue women with the right intentions than I have in my previous 18 years. Some struggling, some not. To be fair to the women, I’ve heard plenty of guys say the same phrase in reverse, “I hate girls.”

Being patient in finding your future spouse is one of the hardest things to do.

I get it.

But to the girl who says, “Where are all the chivalrous Christian men nowadays?” I just want to direct you to the big flashing arrows pointing down to ten of my closest friends who are incredible, witty, funny, and great Christian men that any girl would be lucky to meet. They’re just the tip of the iceberg. At Texas A&M, I live on a campus with about 25,000 guys roaming around, some pursuing Jesus, some not. I guarantee that out of that 25,000, there’s (at least) one Christian man, with the right intentions and goals in mind, who’s day would be more than made just to get the opportunity to take you on a date.

So, to the Christian college girl with all the right intentions who claims that she “hates guys,” even if you’re just saying it as a joke, don’t.

If you just came off a bad relationship and you aren’t ready to date again, don’t.

Be patient.

It’s one of the hardest things you can do in life, being patient.

Live your life and focus on yourself and being the best you and let the rest fall into place when it is supposed to.

Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

My only request is to not discourage the Godly man looking to pursue great girls like you because he thinks he doesn’t have a shot.

God has a plan to give you that man that you want to pursue so badly, just don’t write him off before he shows up at your doorstep.